• Physical Health Reproductive and Sexual Health

    Have You Heard of “Make Love Not Porn”?

    Is there a difference between real world and porn world? We live in a culture that glorifies sex. With the large amount of porn online, porn is being watched at an increasingly early age. How has growing up with readily available porn changed the new generation’s perspectives on sex? Cindy Gallop presented her idea for makelovenotporn.com at TED 2009. The site juxtaposes the myths of hardcore porn to the real world.

    Some examples featured on the website include:

    • PORN WORLD: Men love coming on women’s faces, and women love having men come on their faces.
    • REAL WORLD: Some women like this, some women don’t. Some guys like this, some guys don’t. Entirely up to personal choice.
    • PORN WORLD: Women love being made to gag during blow jobs by having their heads grabbed and a man’s cock shoved forcibly right down their throats.
    • REAL WORLD: Some women may like this, but based on an unscientific sample, an awful lot don’t. (Suffocating, choking, retching and having your gag reflex kick in is a real buzz killer during sex…)
    • PORN WORLD: Women come all the time in positions where nothing is going on anywhere near the clit.
    • REAL WORLD: There has to be some sort of rhythmic pressure on the clit in just the right way to make a woman come. Can be pubic bone, tongue, fingers, something else entirely. But it has to be there.

    The website has also expanded into posting submissions onto forums along with videos.

    It is important to keep in mind that porn is entertainment and not reality. The porn industry has heavily distorted the idea of sex for the new generations. Gallop raised this concern of a new generation with an example of young boys, who learned from porn that girls like being come on the face, asking young girls to do the same. These young girls, who learned the same thing from porn, will believe that it is normal and she is supposed to like it.

    Perhaps some intervention, revelation, and restructuring about sex are needed after all. However, the double standards on this topic of sex—promoted falsely by the media while avoided by parents, teachers, and other responsible adults—makes it a difficult case to tackle. The fine line between porn and love reminds us to “make love not porn.”

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    Article by Jami Wang 

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